“She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:12
I could give you a laundry list of all the ways we hurt our husbands, but I’m sure you can think of plenty on your own.
I could give you a list of ways you can do good to your husband, or tell you how I try to do good to mine, but you know those examples already, too.
The Proverbs 31 woman teaches us more than just the “how-to’s” of being a good woman and wife. She teaches us the why behind the how. She reminds us of our ultimate motivation as wives. She points us to the reason behind all the blood, sweat and tears of womanhood and wife-hood and motherhood.
Because God first loved her. Because God first brought her good. Because God first shielded her from harm. Because God promises to be her God all the days of her life and into eternity. Because God. Even more, because Jesus. This Wonder Woman relies on the promise of a coming Savior the way we believe Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God. That hope of Jesus, that faith in his salvation and grace and forgiveness, that knowledge in her heart of who he is - all of that motivated her to do her best for her husband, family and community.
Sometimes women have a hard time doing good to a person they think doesn’t deserve their goodness. Why should I show love to my husband when he ignores me? How can I say positive things about him when we’re in the middle of a fight? Why should I do (insert nice action here) for him when he doesn’t do (insert action here) for me? How can I forgive him?
Why? Because God.
How? By God’s power.
Try to do this on your own power and I can guarantee you will fail. But do this with the motivation of God’s love overflowing in your life and his power coursing through your veins and you can’t fail. It’s not always easy and you will make mistakes, but you also have God’s forgiveness and grace readily offered to you.
Because God has brought good into your life, you can bring good to your husband. Because God loved you so much he sent Jesus for you, you have the power to love your husband. Because Jesus has promised to love you with an everlasting love, you have the great privilege of loving your husband ‘til death parts the two of you. Because God gives you his protection, you can protect your husband from things that might cause him harm.
Easy? No way. Possible? With God’s power, absolutely.